No Judgement Here? Engaged at 20

A little off the topic of fashion and beauty this week, but completely relevant in my opinion.

I’m a massive fan of Sophie Shaw, AKA ‘ The Young Mummy’, who is an Australian blogger writing about being a young mum in the most raw and personal way! (blog here: Her blog is amazing and one of a kind in an environment where anything from fashion, beauty and even motherhood are sugar coated.

I was reading one of Sophie’s articles the other day and I was like “hell yeah I can relate to this”! Now, I don’t have any babies and I don’t plan to have them anytime soon, however the point Sophie raised seemed really relevant to what I’m going through at the moment.

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Picture of Sophie and her son Bobby via ‘The Young Mummy’ Instagram page. Love it!

The article I read was, ‘Stop judging me for being a young mum’ (available here:, Sophie discussed the negative and judgmental questions and comments she would receive from the ‘outsider people’, about becoming a young mum.

Now I guess people are wondering, “how does this relate to you”? Well put simply I recently got engaged….Okay six months ago!! Seriously, can I please ask where the hell the time went? Nevertheless getting engaged at 20 years old is a bit of conversation starter, which some of the time can be quite negative.

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Francois and I on a night out! Picture from my Instagram page.

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My engagement announcement on my Instagram page!

Usually from people I don’t know or who I’m not too close with, I get statements like, “oh, you’re engaged?” closely followed by “really? But your so young!”

Yes, I am aware that I’m 20 years old and yes, I know I am young, but why should that matter?

What’s even more frustrating are the statements such as “I want to travel the world before I get married” or “I can’t believe you’re engaged, I could never imagine getting married at your age” and my all time favourite “wow, you are young! Are you sure about this?”

I will travel the world one day, I’ll see places but it will be in the company of my husband and you know what I couldn’t be more excited! I couldn’t think of a better person to travel with, I get my best friend and my lover all in one.

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Frankie and I pre-engagement.

I get that we live in a society where marriage at a young age is no longer the norm but who says because it’s not common, it shouldn’t be done? My god, I feel so blessed and so lucky to have Frankie in my life! I have a partner who loves me unconditionally and treats me with the respect that I deserve. He’s my biggest supporter and he motivates me to strive for more in life and I couldn’t imagine my life without him.

Who knows what the future holds for us, all I know is I’m so grateful to share it with Frankie.

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Love and Light

Ash x

2 thoughts on “No Judgement Here? Engaged at 20

  1. Wow you bring tears to my eyes, I cant ask for a better daughter in law, loving, caring and always so full if life we are happy to have you in Frankie’s life he is a happy and a lucky guy! P.S. Cant wait for u to start a family I will be the proudest ‘Ouma’!

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